"Pardon sir, but I would like to inquire, how many pair of dirty boxers are strewn about your bedroom?
After a while, though, I realised that eventually I would have to try to fill the gaping hole and I began to think about another aspect of my situation – being single again after 14 years of marriage. One day, my daughter asked me if I was going to get a girlfriend. After a pause, she asked with a hint of excitement: "Will we get a baby brother or sister?
This came out of the blue from my seven-year-old daughter Isabella – but then, little about our recent family life had been expected.
My children lost their mother, Carolina, to breast cancer in June 2013. When she was terminally ill, we left our house, jobs and schools and moved back to the UK from abroad.
People say that the death of a loved one, loss of a job and moving house are three of the most stressful situations – and we had to endure all three at the same time.
I'm 39, and like many younger bereaved people, I've had to get used to a word I never thought would apply to me: widower.